6 de maio de 2019

What I learned reading “Onanism and Sexual Abuse”.

Filed under: Notícias e política, Organizações, Saúde e bem-estar — Tags:, , — Yure @ 09:22

Onanism and Sexual Abuse: A History of Two Obsessions” was written by Agustín Malón Marco. Below, what I learned by reading this text.

  1. The aim of the study is to show how the discourse against masturbation, typical of the seventeenth and eighteenth century, has several characteristics in common with the current discourse against child sexual abuse.
  2. The problem here is that the discourse on child sexual abuse is falling into the same pitfalls in which the discourse against masturbation has fallen.
  3. The main similarities are in the way we deal with the problem, that is, in the means of fighting it.
  4. The problem of child sexual abuse must be understood historically and sociologically, so that our actions return to normalcy, as happened with masturbation.
  5. The greatest family taboo is incest, but it is also the most easily broken.
  6. Contemporary pedagogy is the fruit of new ideologies, new authors, new programs, new institutions, new centers of attention and new obsessions.
  7. Understanding the modern obsession with child sexual abuse requires us to understand our present concept of childhood and its relationship with the concept of family.
  8. The obsession is the result of the synergy between three concepts: childhood, family, sexuality.
  9. Childhood brings sexuality in itself, consequently, it brings sexuality to the family.
  10. We are concerned protecting the child from the sexuality of the world, but we also have the concern to protect the child from his or her own sexuality.
  11. The child has sexuality, but such sexuality can stimulate the child to contract “bad” habits, such as not looking for partners or seeking unacceptable relationships.
  12. The war against masturbation lasted for two centuries.
  13. At first, the bias against masturbation was pedagogical in nature, but then it became a medical concern and a psychological concern: masturbation as a bad habit, then as unhealthy practice, then as mental degeneracy.
  14. Some traces of the past are visible today.
  15. Just as libidinous acts before the age of fourteen are seen as sexual abuse, masturbation was once seen as “self-abuse”.
  16. The adults around the child who is known to practice masturbation are viewed with suspicion.
  17. The ills attributed to masturbation had no empirical foundation.
  18. The evils attributed to relationships between adults and minors are subject to debate .
  19. In the old days, we wanted to protect the boy from himself, but now we want to protect him from others.
  20. This is important because the child does not yet have defenses against attacks from older people.
  21. This kind of relationship is inherently unequal , even more when it occurs in an incestuous setting.
  22. Unless the boy has sufficient knowledge to understand these relationships and to defend himself, he remains vulnerable to the harm that could (not necessarely would) ensue.
  23. The fight against masturbation was a struggle against something natural and normal, but the fight against child sexual abuse is a fight against what could harm the child .
  24. Much of the damage attributed to masturbation was caused by the social reaction to the act.
  25. The same is true for relationships between adults and minors: some minors do not want to break up such relationships and only begin to suffer when others find out.
  26. The legal process in which the minor will have to participate can be traumatic in itself.
  27. But to say that some relationships between adult and minor are harmless is politically incorrect.
  28. Nobody is willing to admit that society’s response to adult/child relationships is exaggerated.
  29. Arguing that relationships between adults and minors can be pleasurable to the minor is seen as an excess of liberalism .
  30. The age difference that would be sufficient to qualify a relationship as necessarily negative varies from author to author, from culture to culture.
  31. A feminist who advocates the incest model may say that feminists who disagree with such model are not real feminists .
  32. These feminists who like the incest model (according to which libidinous acts within the family are unacceptable) are also against pornography and prostitution.
  33. They are also against BDSM .
  34. One of the similarities between the war against masturbation and the war on child sexual abuse is the attempt to prevent the phenomenon from occurring or to detect it immediately after it has occurred.
  35. The means to prevent masturbation were exaggerated.
  36. Such means were harmful in themselves.
  37. Likewise, the means we use to prevent sexual abuse are also exaggerated and even controversial.
  38. For example, we teach children to recognize signs that their relationship with an adult is or is becoming sexual, but there are so many signs…
  39. This is aggravated because we have the idea that the worst contact is incestuous, so the boy must learn to police his parents.
  40. Detection is the hardest part.
  41. Because of this, development of detection means is a fertile branch.
  42. They will detect abuse even in a child who has not been abused.
  43. Because the girl often does not tell if something sexual happened to them, it is assumed that the symptomatic girl who denies abuse is lying, as was the case of masturbation, in which, when “signs” of masturbation were detected, it was assumed that the girl was masturbating, as she would never confess that she was masturbating in secret.
  44. These signs of masturbation could be anything from bad sitting posture to the boy’s skin color.
  45. Signs of sexual abuse, what are they?
  46. Can they be safely attributed to abuse or can they also be caused by third variables?
  47. This is even more serious in the United States, where the moral panic about pedophilia has reached the heavens.
  48. Much of the investigation into sexual abuse begins with conviction, intuition, and aims to prove that abuse has occurred, even when it has not actually occurred.
  49. Such attitude also existed in the nineteenth century, when medical professionals were more interested in proving that the girl was fond of masturbation, than actually knowing if she was indeed masturbating (after all, if she were, she would not say).
  50. Such an attitude, to prove that abuse has occurred at all costs, is starting to become unpopular
  51. Many libidinous acts that occur before the age of fourteen are innocent , that is, harmless .
  52. This is because there are factors around the libidinous act that make it positive or negative, for example: age of the participants, level of education of the minor, sexual orientation, personal situation, nature of the act, previous relationship with the adult and repetition frequency.
  53. The fact that a libidinous act was pleasurable in childhood does not prevent its reformulation as abuse after the child grows and reinterprets the experience.

  54. The same was true for masturbation in the past: when the boy grew up and learned that his experience was “actually” damaging or risky, he would, of course, repudiate what happened.
  55. Statistically speaking, a good number of relationships between adult and minor can not be called “abuse” in the strict sense of the term, although this does not invalidate the existence of destructive experiences.
  56. A harmless experience can be sold as negative by making it seem dramatic.
  57. This was also true at that time when mankind was fighting masturbation, because masturbation was seen as the worst thing that could happen to anyone.
  58. The prevalencen rates of masturbation and the prevalence of libidinous acts between adult and minor are enormous, and their deleterious effects are seen as universal (which leads us to question how such a problem was only “discovered” in the last third of the last century).
  59. The prevalence of child sexual abuse varies according to the definition of abuse, which causes some prevalence rates to be really high.
  60. If you include voluntary and harmless experiences under the abuse umbrella, of course you will get high prevalence rates.
  61. If the negative consequences (promiscuity, fear, mood swings, compulsion, hyperactivity, phobias, introversion, guilt, depression, suicidal tendency, fatigue, low self-esteem, fear of men, sexual problems, tendency to excessive alcohol or drug use, suicide, desire to prostitute, personality problems, among others) of these relationships are inevitable and if the prevalence is so high, how come I don’t see traumatized people more often?
  62. The list of symptoms of abuse is based on assumptions taken from the practice of physicians dealing with particular cases, not from studies with solid empirical foundations.
  63. There is no fixed list of signs and symptoms of adult/minor relationships.
  64. In addition, using such a list would obscure other causes for such symptoms, since several causes can reproduce such signs and symptoms (not every depressed or alcoholic person is depressed or drunk because of child sexual abuse, for example).
  65. If the guy has had sex before the age of fourteen, is marginalized, unemployed, poor and depressed, a hysterical clinician could say that the guy has depression because he had a precocious relationship, rather than blaming marginalization, unemployment or poverty.
  66. Assigning a problem to the wrong causes will lead to a wrong treatment.
  67. The belief in the necessarily deleterious potential of early relationships has been elevated to the degree of truth without evidence: it is true that a lot of these experiences are abusive, but to say they are all abusive is an exaggeration.
  68. The root of the movement against masturbation is the institutionalization of the bourgeois way of life: it all began because the rising bourgeoisie valued self-control and focus on the long-lasting pleasure gained through hard work but rejected momentary pleasure and unproductive fun.
  69. So the struggle against masturbation was, at least in the beginning, just a way of passing class values ​​to the next generation.
  70. The bourgeoisie (always active) tried to be the opposite of the feudal aristocracy (indolent).
  71. For the bourgeois could only do two things: to work or to sleep.
  72. For John Money, society’s excessive interest in the problem of adult-child relationships comes from an anti-sexual bias in our society, just as in times of struggle against masturbation (what began as a merely moral matter of class values ​​branched into things like sin, disease and degeneration).
  73. According to John Money, the child abuse industry (companies and other organizations that profit from combating adult-child relationships) is a symptom of the “sexual counterrevolution” fostered by institutions like government and church , manifesting itself in laws through politics .
  74. Whom benefits from such law?
  75. The discussion against the “moral perversion” of our children quickly degenerates into attacks against sexuality itself.
  76. For some, bathing with your own children is sexual abuse.
  77. Because, these people think, the boy can feel pleasure and think that such thing is normal .
  78. Criticism against early relationships may be based on misconceptions about child sexuality.
  79. This combat is profitable and there are people who use it only for their own benefit: if the child sexual abuse industry justifies it’s existence if there is demand for their services, then the demand needs to increase, even if it is the industry itself that has to increase such demand (through alarming campaigns and poorly done studies).
  80. In the future, we may look at our obsession over relationships between adults and minors in the same way that we look at our previous obsession over masturbation.
  81. The obsession with child sexual abuse has led to the hysteria of satanic ritual abuse in the United States and everyone knows what happened .
  82. It seems that, at least in the United States, the pedophile is as rejected as a serial killer or a terrorist.
  83. The problem of child sexual abuse can be used as a distraction , in order to turn people’s attention away from poverty, social inequality or even away from other types of child abuse, such as physical abuse, emotional abuse and neglect .
  84. The normal, sly guy can understand that he can also benefit from this moral panic: the mother who accuses her husband of abusing the children to win a custody battle and receive child support, the son who accuses his parents of sexual abuse for get rid of the family, the girl who accuses the teacher because she doesn’t like him or because said teacher does not correspond her feelings for him, it is very hard to lose this kind of case.
  85. The laws have gone too far and are endangering harmless people.
  86. We can’t fight what we don’t understand.

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